Thank you so damn much for your reply. It's so cliche and typical of me to just say it's uplifting to receive a reply but it really is encouraging. I attempted calling KidsHelpline but every time I just backed out before anyone could answer. Pretty cowardly of me, I know. I just think there are a lot of people with issues out there and mine just aren't that worthy of anyone's time. I think I'm just a typical teen with some typical problems and I want to escalate them so I seem more important.
My parents have allowed me to see a psychologist whenever I want to so I guess time will tell if I have any actual issues. Hi Noodewsoup and thanks for coming back and letting us know how you are getting along.
I also want to commend you for having time off the internet as required. I know myself I have had to do the same thing, so it is good you knew when you needed a break. I am glad your parents allowed you to see someone. I think your parents maybe in denial or have hesitation because they may be worried it won't go away. Does that mean have a mental illness at this moment? Some people only have it for a period of time e.
It is something you can get help with, overcome and manage. Not everyone has a chronic long-term, and life long mental illness. It is no longer as big a stigma as it used to be. Some people view mental illness like one flew over the coccos nest good movie , but it is not like that anymore.
Have you seen someone yet? Did it go well. If you have any questions feel free to ask me : I am proud you had that talk with your parents.
I know how difficult it is. Thanks for your reply. There is never a need to apologise for staying away for a time. We all approach our various difficulties differently and in the way it best suits us.
I have posted on the forum irregularly in the past few weeks as I had some surgery a couple of weeks ago. All good now, just catching my breath before I get going again. It is common to drop out for a short time. Please come back though. I am sorry you were unable to chat to the Kids Helpline people. I know how hard it can be to take that first step and you have at least dialled the number.
Perhaps you can try again because it is helpful to have an immediate someone to talk to when you feel down. No need to worry they will dismiss your feelings and concerns as general growing up. They do understand teenagers. It's great news that you can see a psychologist. Ask your GP for a referral and ask for someone who has experience with teenagers. It makes a difference when talking to them. You said in one post that you had spoken to a school counsellor but kept some things back about your home life as it was inappropriate for a school counsellor.
Please do not hold back with the psychologist. They can only work on what they are told though some are very cluey and can make connections. Being open is the best way forward although you may want to take things slowly until you are comfortable talking to the psych. I want to comment on your idea that you are not as worthy as others. Everyone is worthy of help. One of my most frequent comments is to say there is no hierarchy of need. No matter what ails you I expect you could find someone who appears to have it worse.
We all manage our problems differently and what is end of the world stuff for one person is minor to others. So remember you and your difficulties and concerns need help to get well just as much as anyone else.
Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. You are currently: Home Get support Online forums. Online forums Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile Complete your profile. So, in that sense, marriage doesn't seem like an expression of love to me. Basically, though, I have no issue at all with happy long-term couples who stay together for good reasons, like that they enjoy each other's company and make each other's lives better and they can flourish as human beings in the relationship.
I just have issues with unhappy couples feeling pressured to stay in couplehood for bad reasons. So I really get annoyed by arguments that long-term couplehood is intrinsically superior to singledom, and I felt like she was doing that. Jun 18, Ruzz rated it did not like it Shelves: philosophy , , ebook , kobo.
Jul 28, Faythe Swanson rated it did not like it. What a waste of pages! The best part of the book was the epilogue! When I began this book, I was hoping to be inspired. It didn't give any advice as to how to become unstuck.
When it comes down to it, this book made me feel stuck! Dec 03, Pete Jacob rated it did not like it. One good thing did come from reading this book, I was able to move on with my life and release my frustration from reading this book.
The first couple hundred pages or so was actually pretty interesting after that things got pretty redundant, kind of like being trapped in some inter dimensional salt water taffy soup. The author truly has no concept of the grieving process of human beings which is SO necessary to our getting UN "Stuck". I really need to pay more attention to an authors credentials. Jul 22, StarMan added it Shelves: non-fiction , self-help.
Sep 28, Susan rated it did not like it Shelves: no-no-no , , did-not-finish. Goodreads really should have an 'I tried to read this book but it was so bad that I could not even think of finishing it' option.
This book was so bad I managed to get somewhat into the first chapter before giving it up for a waste of time. The idea that 'name calling in the name of helping you become a better person' is the classic definition of bullying behaviour. Why would I want to read a book by a bully? Who needs that type of negative energy in life, and why would I, or anyone, invite it in Goodreads really should have an 'I tried to read this book but it was so bad that I could not even think of finishing it' option.
Who needs that type of negative energy in life, and why would I, or anyone, invite it into my home in a book? A complete waste of time. I would recommend staying away from this one and seeking something constructive and supportive e. Feb 18, Jenna Woodbury rated it did not like it.
This book was terrible, and I couldn't bring myself to finish it. While I agree with some of the points the author makes, I stopped reading when she mentioned the business in Scandinavian where one can go and have sex with animals. I don't believe it. Many other statements she makes are sweeping generalizations and gradiose statements. And, it was boring, to boot! This book is a waste of time. Jul 21, L. This book just rambles and rambles and goes on and on about nothing.
The book itself is stuck. Maybe that's the point the author was trying to make? Regardless, it's not funny, and I don't want to be stuck in her rut. I'm stuck enough in my own. May 29, Idiosyncratic rated it did not like it.
Just could not get into it Apr 27, Paula rated it did not like it. Not as interesting of a social commentary as I'd hoped. AS much as I tried, I could not pick it back up again. May 21, Sharon rated it did not like it. She was so stuck in the idea of staying stuck, I couldn't even bear to finish it. I made it halfway. A complete waste of money and time I could spend being unstuck! Sep 10, Trish rated it did not like it. Aug 29, Melanie rated it did not like it. It was a personal dissertation on how she sees other people.
Occasionally she has these great points that gets lost in her distaste of how others live. Dec 31, April Capil rated it it was amazing Shelves: life-skills-books , wellness-wednesdays. Awesome book on the ways people cling to things, the ways we distort time and meaning, and how we pick and choose our freedoms to suit our neuroses.
Feb 05, Zeina A. Jul 22, Marie rated it really liked it. This book was interesting, though with a few too many anecdotes in my opinion though that does indicate the book was well researched. Though she doesn't really offer any concrete advice for getting unstuck, however I think that that is because there ISN'T a clear answer, and even if there was, it varies due to individual circumstances of being stuck. Furthermore, I suspect that often people DO know of actions they could take to become unstuck: the hard part is actually doing it.
With this book This book was interesting, though with a few too many anecdotes in my opinion though that does indicate the book was well researched. With this book, the author arms us with the facts of the reality of American culture and how it encourages bad habits and excuses being stuck as a predisposition or sickness , not a choice. My favorite chapter was the chapter about being stuck in the present: how modern technology and culture teaches us we must get everything right now, and to only think of the present moment, and about the effects of such a mentality on our abilities to make a choice and persevere with the choice, as well as how it hinders our ability to accomplish any long term goals.
Another "aha" moment came in the next chapter, about performing habits again and again even though we know they are bad for us. The author talks about how, in our extremely capitalist society, having an infinite amount of options in everything, from what brand of sandals to buy to what career to pursue, being overwhelmed and unable to choose from the multitude of options often causes us to revert back to what is trusted and familiar, thus causing us to be forever stuck in our old ruts.
The author also warns of the dangers of materialism how this shift in popular culture will cause vast unhappiness and a feeling of emptiness to those who try to fill their voids with consumer goods.
I think this book deserves four stars because the book left me feeling determined to not fall into the cultural trap of stuckness. Also it has a really pretty cover I picked this book up while perusing the "last chance" section at Barnes and Noble. It is not a self-help book, it's a treatise on how and why we're stuck in various arenas of our lives- job, relationships, bad habits, etc. Well-researched and easy to read, a lot of what Rufus has to say makes sense. One of the sections I found very interesting was about the impact capitalism and it's opposites have had on monogamy.
As the author says, "Companies with goods and services to sell hate happy coup I picked this book up while perusing the "last chance" section at Barnes and Noble. As the author says, "Companies with goods and services to sell hate happy couples. I feel, however, she oversimplified a few things and her bias shows.
The chapter on trauma, and how our current society has made superstars of victims, feels a little whiney. And she acknowledges her own issues, which sheds light on why it felt that way. She also disparages therapy a bit, which I might take personally ; It's a lot of good food for thought. I guess I wish the book offered some hope for getting unstuck, which was hinted at in the introduction, but didn't surface anywhere else.
Food: salad with a little too much vinaigrette. A lot of chewing and a little too much vinegar when you get to the bottom of it.
Dec 06, Melody rated it liked it. Unlike the cover might seem to suggest, this is not really one of those feel-good self-help books about how to move forward when you're stuck in a particular habit or job. While it does contain stories of folks who have come unstuck, it is more of a look and sometimes rant at how society sets traps to "stick" us, from marketing techniques to the glorification of addiction. I liked the book because it gave credence to thoughts I already had and left me with many more to ponder.
If you find th Unlike the cover might seem to suggest, this is not really one of those feel-good self-help books about how to move forward when you're stuck in a particular habit or job. Therefore, it can be incredibly helpful to seek out people who have already done what you are trying to do, or have done something similar.
Find a mentor or a peer with similar goals. You can be kept accountable, motivated, inspired, and eventually you will find that your mindset shifts to being more similar to those that you aspire to be. We can help match you with the right therapist for you. Call or email appointments theawarenesscentre. Your email address will not be published. Post Comment. Please add me to the list. Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly.
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It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website. Here are 11 ways that you can move forward when you are feeling stuck; 1. Zoom in Once you have taken a step back, it is time to zoom back in and get specific. Reconnect to your Why Feeling stuck is often the result of losing sight of the bigger picture.
Dig deep for options Even when it seems like we are completely stuck, there are always options. Shift your focus Often when we are stuck, we need to take a complete break from trying to solve the problem. Let go of limiting beliefs What are some of the limiting beliefs that might be holding you back? One step at a time It is easy to get overwhelmed when we are thinking ten steps down the line.
Take responsibility When we are feeling stuck, it is easy to see ourselves as the victim in the situation, to feel like the world is stopping us from moving forward.
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